This week on the Romance Writers Weekly blog hop we address the question, "How do you handle it when your work is rejected?"
Honestly, it's been a long time since I had a publisher reject me, in part because I've been mostly indie for the last few years, but I've had readers and reviewers who've been less than thrilled with certain of my books, and that's kind of the same thing.
The biggest problem with rejection, IMO, is that, as writers, we're too close to our work. It's impossible to be objective. If everyone is giving you the same, negative feedback you have to consider that perhaps they're right.
On the other hand, you can't be so easily swayed that you change for every opinion, or you'll end up with something that doesn't satisfy anyone.
All of which is a very longwinded way of getting to the point, which is that the way I handle rejection is by reminding myself that everyone faces rejection sometime. You literally cannot please all the people all the time, no matter who you are.
Even the most brilliant and/or popular writers who ever lived had critics--people who absolutely loathed them and their work. And some of those people were also brilliant popular, authors--their freaking peers! Somehow, I think that had to hurt even more...unless the feelings were mutual, of course.
Case in point, this list of famous authors who couldn't stand each other's writing: https://www.goodreads.com/blog/show/608-famous-authors-who-were-not-fans-of-other-famous-authors
Now head on over to Brenda Margriet's page and see what she has to say about handling rejection. And don't forget to check out her FREE book Secrets Under the Covers.
SECRETS UNDER THE COVERS
(Book One in the Silverberry Seduction Seasoned Romance Series. Helen and Nathan both 55.)
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The peace Helen Mansfield struggled to achieve after the death of her husband is threatened when she discovers a lump in her breast. Determined to keep the alarming news to herself until the biopsy results are revealed, she sets out to wring every drop of delight from her days.
Nathan Spieth stood by his wife while she fought and ultimately lost her battle with cancer. Since then, he’s devoted his energy to rebuilding the career that he neglected during her final years, and all his hard work is about to pay off.
As neighbours and friends, Helen and Nathan’s lives have been woven together for more than twenty years. One impetuous, impassioned night might destroy everything they share—or prove to this fiercely independent woman and determinedly solitary man that love is always worth the risk.
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My new holiday story Christmasing With You will release on November 1st as part of the Let's Get Naughty holiday anthology--available for pre-order now!