Dr Ava Cadell and the Search for the Big O

I've been thinking a lot about the Big One lately. Fans of my LA Love Lessons series will probably remember Gabby (whose birthday is coming up in another month or so, btw. I'm sure even her detractors will have a hard time forgetting that she's a Pisces) and her own search for the Big O. Ah, if only Gabby knew that help was available right around the proverbial corner.

Dr. Ava Cadell, real-life Love Guru and the founder of the Loveology University (located in Los Angeles, where else?) could have given her quite the assist. I'm sure Dr Ava's courses would have meant an end to Gabby's waiting.

But, then again, if that were the case, I wouldn't have had a book. So I guess it's all good. ;)

With Valentine's Day fast approaching, and in connection with her new Tantric Workbook, Dr Ava is conducting her own search. She's hosting the Search for the World's Best Lover contest. Do you think you know someone who you think qualifies for the title?

If you do, and if you want a chance at winning some very cool prizes for you and your loved one--and if you happen to be someone who's not currently suffering from The World's Worst Case of Writer's Block...Not that I'd know anything about that, of course--this is the contest for you. And, a very nice Valentine's Day surprise for the lucky winner!

Sponsored by Dr Ava's Loveology University, with the winner to be announced on Valentine's Day, all you need do to in order to participate is visit the contest site and submit a short (500 words...okay, c'mon, now, that's really short!) essay explaining why the person you're nominating deserves the title.

The winner will receive either a $2000 scholarship or $1000 cash, in case you were wondering. And, in addition, just for entering you will receive a really nice certificate for your partner as well as a FREE copy of Dr Ava's e-book, 52 Sizzling Sex Secrets. Now, I don't advise saying that 3 times fast (although, it might be good exercise, come to think of it) but I'm betting that at least a few of those secrets might give your tongue better things to do than twisting itself around such lusciously alliterative lingo. Even if I am a huge fan of alliteration.

Deadline for submissions is February 6th, 2009, so time's a wasting. Visit http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/instruction.aspx to enter.

And now, Dr. Ava has been kind enough to share the following article with us all. It's a little long, but I figure my fans are used to that kind of thing...besides, we all know size matters, don't we?

I just really hope Derek is paying attention...

The Big 'O'
Your Sex Life
The Big 'O' In search of the ultimate orgasm by Dr. Ava Cadell

As humans we are always in search of the ultimate orgasm whether it’s with our soul mate, a one night stand, a bottle of booze, or mind altering drugs. It is our second basic instinct after self-preservation. So why are we seeking that euphoric, mind-blowing, earth shattering, energy melting orgasm? We seek to lose that part of ourselves which connects to the everyday and mundane, and for a brief moment of eternity reach out and feel the all-embracing Karma, the essence of the universe, making, for that one brief moment, our tiny insignificant essence part of a much greater supreme whole. Perhaps therefore, the "ultimate orgasm" is our shorthand for losing the pain and hassle of being human, and seeking to transcend the fleshly prison for one brief instant in which we can float ethereally like gods.

Choose Your Orgasm There are many different kinds of orgasm that you can experience from stimulation of different parts of your body. Each one will create different kinds of feelings ranging from quick, short, localized, deep, concentrated, to full body orgasms. This is your opportunity to experiment with as many different kinds of orgasm as you can. Remember that orgasm is good for your health so it’s doctors’ orders!

A UniGasm This is an orgasm where stimulation is directed to one primary erogenous zone such as the penis, prostate, testicles, clitoris, G-spot, anus, or nipples. Nipple stimulation for men and women can produce an orgasm, though it’s not as common as some of the other erogenous zones. For women, having their breasts caressed and nipples sucked releases Oxytocin, the chemical that makes them feel like they are in love. Masters and Johnson discovered that one percent of women were able to achieve orgasm from breast stimulation alone. This is an area that many men enjoy stimulating during foreplay, but rarely think of as having orgasmic potential. To give memorable oral sex on her breasts and nipples you need to understand that the size of her breasts have nothing to do with the sensitivity. Ask her if she gets turned on by having her breasts played with. If so, then follow these directions. Begin by caressing and licking both of her breasts, not just her nipples. Alternate each one as you use the flat of your tongue in lapping motions all around her breasts covering every centimeter. Follow your tongue with light fingertip caresses, leaving her nipples until last. When both breasts are suitably wet from your tongue, cup your hand over one breast at a time so that the tip of her nipple rests in between your thumb and your index finger. Squeeze the fingers together so that you raise her nipple slightly, and then begin licking it with the tip of your tongue in circular motions. After about a dozen licks or so, pucker your lips around the nipple and suck gently but firmly; let your head bob up and down simultaneously. To enhance oral nipple sensation, put an ice cube in your mouth while lavishing her orally. Don’t forget to give equal attention to both breasts and nipples. When she is climaxing do not stop or change what you are doing. Let her push you away when she is ready.

For male nipple stimulation, the directions are pretty much the same, except men are more interested in having immediate nipple contact with deeper vacuum sucking motions from the woman- not so much teasing around the nipple area. Some men enjoy having their nipples nibbled on. So ladies, it’s up to you to find out how much pain or pleasure your man wants on his nipples. Some men have one nipple that is more sensitive than the other. While you suck on one, you can pinch the other one and then ask him which one feels most erotic. You could be the first one to introduce him to a UniGasm through his nipples. Now that’s what I call creating a lasting mammary, (I mean memory)!

A BiGasm Many people are experienced with various forms of dual stimulation—a penis and a tongue, a vagina and a tongue a finger and a tongue, and various other combinations. Here are some ideal ways to create two points of stimulation at the same time.

This will be more intense than a UniGasm so it’s worth exploring. It can be licking his testicles while masturbating his penis, sucking on her clitoris while penetrating her anus with a finger (preferably covered with a finger cot), sucking his penis while massaging the testicles, licking her perineum while fingering her vagina, and lets not forget good old fashioned penetration too. Have fun experimenting with different combinations on your lover’s body. Ask for feedback so that you know which combinations are most exciting for you both.

The TriGasm for Her So, here’s the revolution, the ultimate orgasm—TriGasm. A female TriGasm is the result of arousing 3 points of pleasure, the clitoris, G-spot, and anus simultaneously. Here are some tips for you and your partner as you go off on your TriGasm exploration.

Step 1: The woman should lie back while her partner lavishes her clitoris with oral pleasure until she has reached a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10.
Step 2: Change course and stimulate her vulva (outside of the vagina) in small circles with your tongue for 2 minutes.
Step 3: Return to the clitoris and orally increase her level of pleasure to a 9, almost to the point of no return.
Step 4: At this peak, insert your forefinger palm up into her vagina and find her G-spot, then tap, tap, tap it gently towards her navel.
Step 5: Simultaneously with step four, stimulate her anus gently with a feather, a pinky or a vibrator to bring her to a momentous, energy-draining TriGasm!

The TriGasm for Him

The TriGasm for Men is also the result of stimulating 3 points of pleasure, the penis, the testicles and the anus simultaneously.

Step 1: The man should lie back while his partner lavishes the head of his penis with some good oral suction until he reaches a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10.
Step 2: Then use your mouth and tongue to stimulate his testicles for 2 minutes while you masturbate his penis with your hand.
Step 3: Return to the penis orally and increase his level of pleasure to a 9, almost to the point of no return.
Step 4: At this peak, fondle his testicles as you continue to orally delight his penis and insert your forefinger palm up into his anus to find his prostate gland, then tap, tap, tap it gently.
Step 5: If all goes well, he’ll have an unforgettable, enormous TriGasm!

Blended Orgasm

A blended orgasm is much like the BiGasm with a little twist. The intention for the blended orgasm is to make it last much longer by teasing your lover and stimulating one primary erogenous zone, then teasing another, then going back to the first and so on. Start by choosing your favorite orgasm technique (such as oral stimulation on the clitoris for a woman and oral stimulation on the penis for a guy). Get aroused to a level 6 on your pleasure scale, and then switch to another orgasm technique you enjoy (such as G-spot for a woman and prostate for a guy) and get aroused to a level 7 this time. Switch back to the first technique, raise your arousal level to 8 and then back to the second technique at least three times before reaching a level 10 on your orgasm scale.

This orgasm technique is a wonderful way to monitor your pleasure scale and is most beneficial for men who suffer from premature ejaculation. Whenever they feel like they are about to reach their orgasm, they move their attention to another erogenous zone to distract the point of no return action.

Mind over Body Orgasm

Since the brain is the most erotic organ in the body, it should be no surprise that you can think your way to orgasm. Sexual thoughts can activate the brain just like sexual touching does. If you’ve ever enjoyed looking at porn, you’ll know what I’m talking about. Visuals of people having sex can automatically trigger your body into a state of arousal, making women wet and giving men erections. If you continued to watch erotica without touching yourself, you could still experience a full-blown orgasm. Even if you’re not into porn, you can achieve a mind over body orgasm by tapping into all of your five senses. To begin, wet your genitals with your own saliva or some lubricant, and then using only your imagination, think about what your lover’s tongue would feel like between your legs; what he or she smells like when fully aroused; visualize what they look like naked; imagine touching, kissing, licking and tasting his or her body. Hear them moaning with pleasure. Become aware of your own feelings as you let your excitement build. The trick here is not to touch yourself, but to let the ebb and flow of your orgasm take you on a mental journey to sexual ecstasy. This can also be fun to do with a partner as a safe sex activity.

  • Orgasm enables us to surrender complete control
  • Orgasm is the best form of escape from reality
  • Orgasm is the most natural high
  • Orgasm is wired to our brain, not between our legs
  • Orgasm gives us indisputable confidence
  • Orgasm teaches us to accept who we are
  • Orgasm satisfies us physically
  • Orgasm satisfies us emotionally
  • Orgasm can be a spiritual experience
  • Orgasm is addictive
  • Orgasm cannot be hurried or pushed by anyone
  • Orgasm can unite two lovers into one
If you have never experienced an orgasm you may be suffering from gynecological, hormonal, or even neurological disorders, but more commonly you could have a psychological block such as:
  • Traumatic past sexual experience
  • Fear of losing control of yourself
  • Resentment towards your partner
  • Feeling guilty about sex
  • Fear of pregnancy
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of rejection
  • Ignorance about your bodies responses
  • Lack of stimulation
  • Low self-esteem and self-worth
  • Being too inhibited
  • Poor communication
  • Unrealistic expectations

Click here for Orgasm Course details


*happy dancing* first newsletter in XXX months finally posted!

January's Newsletter

This is my first attempt at remote posting. Apologies ahead of time if I make a mess!

Volume 5, Issue 1 January, 2009

A New Beginning...

Let me apologize right off the bat and admit I stole the title of this article from Star Wars. What can I say? I’m in that kind of a mood. Besides, it’s January—start of a new year. Almost the start of a new decade, or at least getting closer. The aughts are almost over or, as my brother likes to call them, the oh-ohs.

I really think he might be onto something with that. Haven’t the last eight years felt like one, painfully long, series of mis-steps?

In addition, of course, we also have a new president and while maybe a return to something approaching normalcy is too much to hope for, at the moment, we can continue to be hopeful, just the same.

I’m hoping to introduce some new features to the newsletter this year. This issue is rather spare—I’ve no new releases and no new reviews to report (or brag about). But I’m hoping to add my own reviews of some of the books I’ve been reading along with the occasional interview.

On a more personal note, my son is twenty-one and later this year my daughter turns eighteen. Now, that really feels like a new beginning to me! But, the new beginning I’m most pleased to be able to announce is the up-coming re-release of the entire Oberon series in print.

Yep, you read that right. If everything goes as planned, the first three volumes—with their brand, spankin’ new covers—should be available for purchase within the next few months. Definitely something I’m looking forward to! So, if you belong to a book club, know the book buyers at your local libraries, or have an interest in helping set up book signings—please let me know! I love signing books. Have pen, will travel.

In other news: This month, I’ll be hosting Dr Ava Cadell (author of the Tantric Sex Workbook) on my blogs. Here are the links:

January 19-23 at The Midnight Bell http://ping.fm/8RxFP The subject is Tantric Kissing

January 26-30 at Rhymes with Foreplay http://ping.fm/2Clay The subject is ‘The Big O’ Gee, wonder why I’m interested in that one? ;)

February 2-6 at The Crone’s Nest http://ping.fm/TwXbZ where the Oberon Book Club will be reviewing the Workbook. Should be lots of fun!

Dr Ava is also hosting a contest this month (just in time for Valentine’s Day) The ‘Search for the World’s Best Lover Contest costs nothing to enter and offers some great prizes--including a copy of 52 Sizzling Sex Secrets which you get just for entering! Write a brief essay on why the person you’re nominating should win and you’ll also receive a nice certificate for your loved one and a chance to win a free scholarship to Dr Ava’s Loveology University. For more information check out her website at: http://ping.fm/UUguN

I’ve also been expanding my web presence in the past few months and can now be found on Facebook and Twitter...hope to see you there!


This Month’s Excerpt
From Sound of a Voice That is Still

In this month’s (slightly edited for language) excerpt, set in late January--hey, what a coincidence, huh?--Siobhan pays a visit to her sister’s teashop. I always liked writing the teashop scenes...

The door to the teashop burst open and a gust of wind propelled yet another of Marsha’s friends into the shop. Scout Patterson pushed the door closed behind her, dumped her umbrella into the bucket beside the door and advanced towards them, shaking back her hood and pulling open the hooks of her jacket as she did.

"I hate this weather," Scout snarled as she dropped, damp and disheveled, into an empty chair. "I hate the rain. I hate the cold. I hate the mud. I hate my car. And, oh, God do I hate being pregnant."

"Those last few months do seem to last forever." Marsha nodded sympathetically at her friend, but Lucy Greco-Cavanaugh, cousin to Scout’s husband Nick, looked up from the beekeeper’s catalogue she’d been immersed in and frowned at them both.

"What are you two talking about?" she snapped. "How can anyone hate being pregnant? I loved being pregnant. I mean, what’s not to like?"

Scout glowered at her friend. Probably debating the usefulness of suggesting to Lucy that she try not to take it personally. Completely useless, as Siobhan could have told her. Lucy took everything personally. Especially anything connected to her family.

"Well, let’s see." Scout cast a longing look at the large bowl, brimming with foam, that steamed peacefully on the table in front of Lucy. "Among other things, there’s the lack of caffeine. Mornings like this, that seems like a huge concession to have to make."

"Oh, big deal. So have a decaf, then," Lucy grumbled, as she picked up the bowl and sipped at her latte.

"Or how about some tea?" Siobhan suggested, remembering how badly milk had sat with her stomach during her own pregnancy.

"Maybe." Scout glanced doubtfully first at the teapot, and then at Marsha. "What’d you put in it this time?"

"Mostly green tea," Marsha said. "Along with lavender, and rose petals. And a little spearmint. It’s got some caffeine, not enough to hurt you, but I can make you some without, if you want."

"Why don’t you forget the drinks and think about getting some sleep," Heather Finch, co-owner of the local bookstore advised. She looked at Scout critically. "Have you been up all night or something? ‘Cause girl, you look like hell."

"Heather, that’s a terrible thing to say." Heather’s partner, Ginny Hartman frowned at her. "But, you do look a little tired, dear. Have you been having trouble sleeping?"

"I’m sleeping just fine, thanks," Scout answered. The stubborn thrust of her chin dared any of them to argue with her.

"Here, have a pastry." Marsha pushed the plate of cinnamon rolls towards Scout. "So, what’s wrong with your car?"

Scout picked up a roll and cautiously took a bite. "What’s wrong with it? Gee, I don’t know. You mean, besides the fact that every time I get in it I can’t help but remember how I nearly died in it last summer?"

"So? We all nearly died last summer," Lucy reminded her, taking another sip. "Don’t dwell on stuff like that, you’ll make yourself sick. Have a latte."

"A latte. Right." Scout sighed, and Siobhan found herself feeling caught between sympathy for Scout and agreement with Lucy. Marsha had come close to being killed, too, after all. And, in a way, it had been at least partly Scout’s fault. "It hasn’t ever really run right since the accident, and now the roof’s started leaking." Scout looked down at her stomach ruefully, "Plus, it’s not exactly a practical family car, either."

"Get an SUV," Lucy suggested. "Like mine. They’re not as sporty as your Mustang, but they’re plenty practical."

Scout sighed. "Well, I would, except Nick is being a little weird about money right now. He doesn’t seem to want to spend any for some reason."

Lucy’s eyebrows rose in surprise. "So? Why would you be spending his money? You’ve got plenty of your own, don’t you?"

"Yeah." Scout grimaced. "He’s being a little weird about that, too."

"Oh." Lucy nodded understandingly. "Joey, huh?"

"I guess." Scout sighed again, and took another bite of pastry.

"Joey...what?" Heather asked Lucy. "What’d your brother do now, Luce?"

"Oh, nothing, really," Lucy said. "It’s just...well, he did kind of happen to suggest to my father that Nick was maybe marrying Scout for her money. Or that he should have been marrying her for her money, or something. This was a couple of weeks before the wedding. The story got a little confusing in the re-telling."

"They usually do, don’t they?" Ginny observed, her brown eyes twinkling over the rim of her cup as she sipped at her tea. "So, who told who what, exactly?"

"Well, my father told my mother, of course. And then my mother had to go and tell my aunt about it, and my aunt--"

"Went and told Nick," Scout said, taking up the tale. "Who blew up at Joey. Again. I have to say, it was not my idea of a fun Christmas."

"Yeah, and I was so sorry to have missed it." Lucy grinned. She pushed her bowl across the table. "Here. One sip ain’t gonna kill you, Scout. A little coffee, a little warm milk, a little foam--where’s the bad? It’s the answer to all of life’s annoying little problems." She turned to Marsha. "I can’t even remember. What did we used to do, before we had them?"

"Drugs," Marsha replied, smiling at her friend. "Drugs. Cigarettes. Alcohol. Stuff like that."

"Oh, yeah." Lucy smiled reminiscently. "That’s right. Those were the days, huh?"

© 2009 PG Forte All Rights Reserved


Getting closer to being finished with this month's newsletter. What? It's still January! ;)
now let's try posting to ping.fm from iGoogle. lol! bet everyone who wasn't on this morning's #smt09 call is pretty confused right now.
Just taking ping.fm for a test drive... ;)